tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post5287997396183339333..comments2023-08-26T08:04:17.156-05:00Comments on Jamie's Rabbits: The Post About Who Should Make The First Move?Jamiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07153568379434219021noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-52819895229303212092011-06-03T14:04:43.696-05:002011-06-03T14:04:43.696-05:00Stalking is perfectly acceptable.Stalking is perfectly acceptable.Rachelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-28700996259651523942011-06-02T16:39:09.206-05:002011-06-02T16:39:09.206-05:00{For everyone else, "kk" is my best frie...{For everyone else, "kk" is my best friend.} I like Ben's response too. And I want a Joseph Kinnaird on the inside, but tweaked a hair on the outside. And by "a hair" I mean less hair.Jamienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-67247947411418889272011-06-02T11:02:50.943-05:002011-06-02T11:02:50.943-05:00How did I get my guy? Not by asking him out, but ...How did I get my guy? Not by asking him out, but making it VERY plain that I wanted to be asked out. Did I make a spectacle out of myself? YES definitely. But I sure like Ben's response. And who knows...maybe someday, you'll have a Joseph Kinnaird in your life as well :) You know you want that! hehe!kknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-9266707239656779002011-06-01T12:25:06.433-05:002011-06-01T12:25:06.433-05:00{giggle giggle}{giggle giggle}Jamienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-81068613713017235832011-06-01T09:13:56.614-05:002011-06-01T09:13:56.614-05:00It isn't so much what it does constitute ... b...It isn't so much what it does constitute ... but ... the other. When I first replied I just said mutual activity. I just added "Christian" to clarify; not so much to you but to readers in general. I'm digging a hole ... I'm just going to hush.Jamey the guy versionnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-8092998394686841882011-05-29T15:28:51.665-05:002011-05-29T15:28:51.665-05:00First, the term "middle age" is not appr...First, the term "middle age" is not appropriate for this blog. We're happy-go-lucky here. Plus, I plan to live to 118 so the time for such language is many moons away.<br /><br />I might have to take your advice. Minus the part about meeting you. The time for that will be when you officiate our wedding ceremony on the top of that ski slope...Jamienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-9900556901987960262011-05-28T23:19:26.988-05:002011-05-28T23:19:26.988-05:00I think I know you a little. If said dude is conf...I think I know you a little. If said dude is confident and strong enough to be with you it shouldn't matter. Go for it. Of all the chicas I have pursued in my life most of them have hinted they wanted pursuing. Granted there have not been that many I have pursusued. Also keep in mind I have not played the game of dating for 18 years (back when I was but a teenager) and the rules change Joseph Kinnairdnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-73985124149796257952011-05-28T18:51:57.890-05:002011-05-28T18:51:57.890-05:00I don't think it's old-fashioned at all. I...I don't think it's old-fashioned at all. I think there's something inside Jamie that likes being pursued. I need a button that says that.Jamienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-51597104499089654012011-05-28T12:27:20.349-05:002011-05-28T12:27:20.349-05:00At the risk of sounding old-fashioned, I still thi...At the risk of sounding old-fashioned, I still think it's good for the guy to make the first move. In general. There's something inside a man that makes him feel good about pursuing. But, there are always exceptions...Lisa notes...http://lisanotes.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-29786182335109085332011-05-26T17:50:30.083-05:002011-05-26T17:50:30.083-05:00How about the ad at the bottom of the page RIGHT N...How about the ad at the bottom of the page RIGHT NOW is "Single and Over 40?" Boo.<br /><br />I like pursuing friendship. Maybe with a side of stalking? No?Jamienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-55243229759580412092011-05-26T17:48:49.511-05:002011-05-26T17:48:49.511-05:00My poor mother may never get her way about the onl...My poor mother may never get her way about the online dating. Of course, I have entered my late thirties yet...<br /><br />I want to know what else constitutes a "Christian" activity? Like attending a revival or watching something starring Kirk Cameron? That may be my next "ask the Rabbit Readers..."Jamienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-27905778574461813192011-05-26T17:09:18.011-05:002011-05-26T17:09:18.011-05:00I'm personally loving the Asian Love ad that s...I'm personally loving the Asian Love ad that showed up on this post in my google reader. But besides that, I say pursue "friendship" with your crush, and hope he gets the drift and asks you out. But that's just my opinion...Rachel@GraspingforObjectivityhttp://www.graspingforobjectivity.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-20468155138855488802011-05-26T15:14:12.143-05:002011-05-26T15:14:12.143-05:00Well ... I have to say if you are on a dating site...Well ... I have to say if you are on a dating site then I'm not sure why you aren't asking ... I mean<br />you're paying a subscription fee, correct? Ask him ... <br /><br />If not ... suggesting that you meet for a coffee sometime (or some other mutual Christian activity) is easy enough to do ...Jamey the guy versionnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-91430039028251773182011-05-25T22:13:06.055-05:002011-05-25T22:13:06.055-05:00We could learn a lot from this experience :)We could learn a lot from this experience :)Julie Shrevehttp://www.esauproject.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-59243321553778970532011-05-25T21:38:19.314-05:002011-05-25T21:38:19.314-05:00Jem - you're so practical! You must be a thera...Jem - you're so practical! You must be a therapist :-) I'm the queen of "We should go out and drop it like it's hot." What? Juskiddin. I'm so crazy.Jamienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-58733266911531330892011-05-25T21:35:26.101-05:002011-05-25T21:35:26.101-05:00I am pro-treating-me-like-royalty. For the record....I am pro-treating-me-like-royalty. For the record. <br /><br />Such great thoughts well thought. Probably every hesitation on both sides is a smidgen of fear mixed with a tablespoon of holy moly. And did he tell you he wasn't interested in me? WHAT DID HE SAY?!?!?!?Jamienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-77658367729432781622011-05-25T21:30:19.931-05:002011-05-25T21:30:19.931-05:00Maybe you could live vicariously through me?!? May...Maybe you could live vicariously through me?!? Maybe I could be a test subject. The good thing about even pondering it is experiencing a newfound respect for guys who must dread their own rejection...Jamienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-15324789142110516712011-05-25T21:28:20.133-05:002011-05-25T21:28:20.133-05:00My college roommate gave me a book once entitled &...My college roommate gave me a book once entitled "How To Be Assertive, Not Aggressive." It's probably time for a re-read. Great words of wisdom friend - I don't think I even open myself up to timid guys because I always think it would be a poor fit. Maybe not.Jamienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-12989455757065615562011-05-25T21:26:11.566-05:002011-05-25T21:26:11.566-05:00I'm fairly certain my Mom has asked for severa...I'm fairly certain my Mom has asked for several numbers on my behalf which makes me head hurt. Love your comments about changing our mindsets a bit around who does what in a relationship. It's hard for a girl raised on fairy tales to think outside the box - which I want to do! Could there be a better comment that includes an acknowledgement that I'll likely abuse my boyfriend? No, Jamienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-64181348053430219472011-05-25T21:21:59.573-05:002011-05-25T21:21:59.573-05:00Such good manly wisdom - I really love the idea of...Such good manly wisdom - I really love the idea of the guy going out on the limb. I'm not the coolest when trying to indicate interest other than staring too long and then cheshire grinning. I also "like" things he posts on social media. That's sufficient, right?Jamienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-46625231472681182972011-05-25T13:44:52.407-05:002011-05-25T13:44:52.407-05:00Hmmm, I agree with Mark that any guy who can appre...Hmmm, I agree with Mark that any guy who can appreciate your outgoing (and fabulous!) personality should be able to handle you asking him out. And I also agree with Ben that checking things out before jumping in is a good idea. <br />My advice? Just tell him about the Guide for Men blog; pose the hypothetical question to HIM about whether or not men and women can be friends, and which one Jemnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-48169389985362258442011-05-25T13:04:28.647-05:002011-05-25T13:04:28.647-05:00I think its a better question to ask - Do you want...I think its a better question to ask - Do you want to be pursued? It is my belief that in the age of equality that we live in today that, with all the success and advancement that women have made, some women today would rather make the ask themselves. Having said that, I also believe that deep down, every woman wants to be pursued to some level. That's how God made them. Thus I would say thatNathan Bnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-19748612188073034182011-05-25T11:25:58.800-05:002011-05-25T11:25:58.800-05:00Ahh, the question for the ages. My answer? I hav...Ahh, the question for the ages. My answer? I have no clue. I'd like to think it's a possibility. I have wonderful male friends, but with the exception of a couple of them, they're all married, so that doesn't even come into the equation. With the guys I've known forever, yeah, they're my friends. Yeah, we're all single. Do I see relationships coming from either Julie Shrevehttp://www.esauproject.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-82921772854302030662011-05-25T11:16:14.404-05:002011-05-25T11:16:14.404-05:00In the ideal world, the guy would do the pursuing....In the ideal world, the guy would do the pursuing... but in the real world, that's not always the case. Some guys are timid. Some are just lazy. Timid is acceptable. Lazy... not so much. But women with strong personalities (ahem, you and I) sometimes need to make the move. But there is a delicate balance, because you don't want to be overpowering... just assertive. Clear as mud, right? I Kristi M.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928654511888999347.post-75806440969570953852011-05-25T11:14:41.942-05:002011-05-25T11:14:41.942-05:00I think gender roles are quite different from the ...I think gender roles are quite different from the turn of the century or mid-century standards of “this is a man’s role, this is the woman’s role” in a relationship. We have women as the “bread winner” in a relationship, stay at home dad’s, and even women that control the relationship. The lines of demarcation are blurred somewhat, even to the point of women paying for a date occasionally. If Marknoreply@blogger.com